We Are Okay

We Are Okay

Book - 2017
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After picking up and leaving everything behind in California, eighteen-year-old Marin, with the help of her former friend, must confront her grief and the truths that caused her to flee her home.
Publisher: New York : 2017. Dutton Books,
ISBN: 9780525425892
Branch Call Number: YF LACO


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samcmar Feb 13, 2018

This is a very quiet YA novel. It builds slowly, giving you only slivers of information to pull you along to give you the bigger picture. Morin's story is one of a person suffering from grief, something I know I can personal connect with. Her story is one of isolation. It's mournful, but also hopeful. Nina LaCour is such an amazing writer and her teens always feel so realistic and raw with emotion. "We Are Okay" is a fantastic read for those who love tougher topics in their YA novels.

kobrien3 Feb 06, 2018

I chose this book initially for its beautiful cover art. While I don't often gravitate towards contemporary fiction, this beautifully written book about love, loss, friendship, and loneliness, grabbed me from the start and would not let go. If you enjoy books that are character driven and heartfelt, this may be a good pick for you.

SPPL_YouthServices Jan 30, 2018

All Marin has left for family is her grandpa. After his death, Marin must face starting her first year in college feeling alone both emotionally and physically. This is a quiet, moving story about family, grief, loneliness, forgiveness, and resilience. Teens who are going through life changes would relate well to this book. Recommended for grades 8 and up.

Jan 23, 2018

I don't usually read contemporaries. And I NEVER read books about grief or mental illness. I typically don't care to read about sad people and their woes in my spare time. However, this book and the way it dealt with grief struck a chord with me. It reminded me of the sadness and confusion I went through when I lost my father 15 years ago, and it also introduced to me the type of grief that others go through. I'm usually the type to tell people to just "get over it". This novel showed me, in detail, what Marin's thought process was, and how she was processing the events of the summer before in a way that I could understand and accept. Even though not much happened here, I was hooked the entire time I was listening to the audiobook and finished it in two days. I had trouble putting it down. Marin's character growth was done beautifully. I really, truly believed in what happened at the end. For such a short book, this really packs a punch- and I honestly think that I will be buying a copy of this to put on my shelf. Final rating 4.5.

The way this book was written, in terms of word choice was beautiful, but the way the author chose to not put the events in chronological order made the story hard to follow. If you like books where the story is merely about the characters and their relationships, you will love this book. If you look for a book that is plot driven, you will find “We Are Okay” very boring. I found the characters very real because of the amount of detail that the author gave so I expected myself to connect with the main character, Marin, but I just could not get into it. Sadly, I did not enjoy the slow pace of the book and couldn’t wait to be finished with it. - Ravia


This book is about a character named Marin who escapes her life in California to move to New York. Months after she left home, her best friend Mabel comes to visit her and now Marin is forced to face all the problems that she left behind in California.
I really liked how the book was written, where it bounced between present time and the year prior. And it was also written in a way where it was easy to understand but also beautifully written. I highly recommend this book because of its relatable and complex characters and for the happy ending. -Tanya

Oct 21, 2017

There were a few good moments in the book, especially the ending, I was blown away but for the most part I felt Marin's pain, her sense of loss and longing and of the irrevocable change that had happened to her and that she would never be the same. But I guess that was the whole point to the book, right? I wish it had happened differently because I love happy endings that result from a plot that builds up to it. So even though I loved the ending, once again I was blown away, I'm still left feeling empty, unfulfilled. I had hopes for Marin, for Mable, heck even for Hannah but instead everything was messy and too real. Still it was a good read if you like that sort of thing, but I don't, not enough happy in it for me.

Oct 01, 2017

I really loved this book. It was raw and true, and I wish it were longer.

Aug 18, 2017

*sigh* Another book I'm in the minority for.

We Are Okay was just okay for me.

First of all, I didn't feel anything for it. The emotions were too subtle and downplayed for me to connect with Marin.

I get that this book is not at all a plot-driven book, but come on. I wasn't interested in the first third of the book. The events described didn't sound like a big deal, and it all felt exaggerated. It wasn't relatable in any way, and there was no connection between me and the story itself.

I did like the romance portion, but it also took up a lot of time that could've been used on the relationship between Marin and Gramps.

For a book meant to initiate concern and sympathy, We Are Okay performs pretty poorly (at least for me). I know that people admire the beautiful writing (I, myself, am in love with the cover), but that just doesn't do it. It's not enough. I didn't like or dislike the characters—they were all flat—and in my eyes, Marin was just complaining half the time. I get that she was having a bad time, but there was nothing I noticeably liked about her.

The twist is alright, but it just didn't feel realistic enough. The fact that Marin has never been in her grandpa's room is totally questionable too. For a temporary moment, I thought he was abusive or something since she seemed frightened just thinking about it.

In the end, I think I'm just really disappointed that I couldn't feel for the main characters.

0Charlie Jun 29, 2017

It was a little confusing keeping track of the present storyline and the order of the flashbacks. It was also a little heavyhanded that we had to keep waiting for the big reveal - felt forced. I did appreciate making the girl-girl love story feel very normal.

Jun 29, 2017

This is one of the most beautiful and captivating novels I have EVER read! It really demonstrates how betrayal, heartbreak, and loyalty can change a person to their core. I have not read anything else by LaCour but I will be fixing this soon because her writing is just so beautiful! I recommend this to anyone because it is just an incredible little book.

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Aug 18, 2017

jmli thinks this title is suitable for 13 years and over

roropan May 17, 2017

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Feb 28, 2017

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Aug 18, 2017

Surprisingly enough, this was the most relatable and enjoyable line for me in the book. It was honestly disappointing.
"The panties had a picture of the mascot across the butt. They were fun, even if only I would ever see them."

JCLChrisK May 04, 2017

"Tragedy," she says. "Heartbreak." She stops and then she makes sure that I'm looking at her. "Betrayal. . . .

"These are all things that change a person. If we endure them and we aren't changed, then something is wrong."

JCLChrisK May 04, 2017

There are degrees of obsession, of awareness, of grief, of insanity. Those days and nights in the motel room I weighed each of them against the other. I tried to make sense of what had happened, but each time I came up short. Each time I thought I may have understood, some line of logic snapped and I was thrust back into not knowing.

It's a dark place, not knowing.

It's difficult to surrender to.

But I guess it's where we live most of the time. I guess it's where we all live, so maybe it doesn't have to be so lonely. Maybe I can settle into it, cozy up to it, make a home inside uncertainty.


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Aug 18, 2017

Girl runs away after uncovering a dark family secret


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Aug 18, 2017

Sexual Content: Makeout scene

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