The Introvert and Extrovert in Love

The Introvert and Extrovert in Love

Making It Work When Opposites Attract

Book - 2007
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The Innie and Outie Guide to a Great Relationship

We use the words everyday, but what does it really mean to be an introvert or an extrovert? And what does it mean to be an introvert in a romantic relationship with an extrovert? Can it work? Surprisingly, psychologists tell us that despite their obvious differences, introverts and extroverts can enjoy a strong, stable-and fun-relationship. The key to introvert/extrovert bliss lies in understanding what makes the other person tick and using your differences to help balance and enrich the relationship.

This book offers advice for making it happen:

Learn how innies and outies process information and communicate differently Discover ways to create a fulfilling social life for yourself and your partner Find creative ways to blend decision-making and future-planning styles Get past the dangerous question, why can't you be more like me? Turn up the heat in the introvert/extrovert bedroom

The book is based on current scientific research and innie/outie interviews. It is also based upon the authors' personal experiences as a mixed couple--introvert Marti Olsen Laney and extrovert Michael Laney have been happily married for more than forty-two years. They must be doing something right!

Publisher: Oakland, CA : 2007
ISBN: 9781572244863
Branch Call Number: ANF 158.24 LANE
Characteristics: 220 p. : ill. ; 21 cm
Additional Contributors: Laney, Michael L.


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Mar 26, 2014

Adler and Jung had a falling out with Freud . . . Knowing Adler and Jung were both introverts, Freud, being angry at both of them, from that time forward wrote about introversion in a negative light. He described introverts as neurotic and self-absorbed, and he portrayed only extroverts as healthy.

Mar 26, 2014

Marti’s career requires her to travel frequently to promote her books. As a doctor once jokingly told Marti, “Publishers try to kill authors on book tours so their work will become more valuable.”

Mar 26, 2014

Researchers have found that men who help out with the household chores have better sex lives, better health, and better marriages . . . Studies also show that men consistently overestimate the amount of housework they do.


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Mar 26, 2014

I would recommend Marti Olsen Laney's earlier book, The Introvert Advantage, over this one. The advice given is pretty basic and unoriginal: communicate, be present, see the other's point of view. The authors erroneously label the left side of the brain as the thinking hemisphere and the right side as the feeling hemisphere. The left side specializes in verbal and linear thinking, true, but the right side's specialties (spacial relations, pattern recognition, etc.) also constitute thinking! There are some good sections to the book, so as the authors themselves suggest, skip around to find the parts that resonate with you.

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