Whatever ... Love Is Love

Whatever ... Love Is Love

Questioning the Labels We Give Ourselves

eBook - 2015
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In the summer of 2013, lying in a hospital bed, her body riddled with parasites, Maria Bello realized that waiting to do something isn't always an option. In a moment, everything could end, and all of her stories would be lost-stories of love, family, miracles, and madness that filled the hundreds of journals she had been keeping since she was a child. She read through each one of those journals during her months of recovery, and in the process began to uncover who she was and who she had become. And instead of coming to any definitive answers, she found herself asking more and more questions. One of the biggest questions she was asking herself at the time was how to tell her son, then 12 years old, that she had fallen in love with a woman. Jack's response-simple and wise beyond his years-was "Whatever, Mom . . . love is love." Realising that Jack didn't see traditional labels of partnership, Maria began to contemplate the labels she herself had worn during her life. Written as a series of provocative questions and thoughtful answers, this book is filled with deeply personal, often funny, and even passionate stories, stories in which Maria bares her soul and shares what she's learned-not only about romantic love, but also about her relationship with her parents, her feelings about spirituality, her sexual identity, the highs and lows of her career, her humanitarian work, and her worth as a mother.
Publisher: [New York] : 2015. Dey Street Books,
ISBN: 9780062351852
Branch Call Number: REM
Characteristics: 1 online resource
Additional Contributors: Bolinda Digital

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Jan 07, 2018

Highly recommend. In sharing her life experiences with candor and openness, Maria Bello articulates and gives us the key questions for our own self reflexion re the labels society foists on us and the labels we use ourselves on ourselves and others. It is in this sharing of her experiences that she connects with us on a very human and quotidian level. If anything, this book is a welcome encouragement to give others strength for life’s journey.

Mar 05, 2017

I loved the questioning Maria Bello explores in this book. She is very open and invites readers into her past... the good, bad, and just plain ugly. In doing so, she shines light on how powerful love, forgiveness, and faith can be. Great read.

Jun 11, 2015

Appreciate the insight into adaptations we have made with family/friends/partners/spouses. Too much family dysfunction that I didn't want to know about and probably not necessary to get to her point about questioning labels.

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Mar 05, 2017

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